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Even Love Has to Undergo the Stress Test of Time
Valentine’s Day is here and this is a time when young couples dream of finding true love, getting married and living happily ever after. But alarming divorce and domestic violence statistics tell a different story. Statistics show that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and every 9 seconds a woman is assaulted by a husband or boyfriend.
Apart from the personal trauma, domestic violence exacts a staggering cost from corporate America - employers lose between $3 to $5 billion every year in absenteeism, lower productivity, higher turnover and health and safety costs associated with battered workers.
The problem is severe and progressively getting worse. However, there is a solution. A breakthrough technique that is detailed by internationally acclaimed author L. Ron Hubbard in his book, Dianetics: The Modern Science of Mental Health.
“It has been discovered that there are three kinds of love between woman and man: The first is covered under the law of affinity and is the affection with which mankind holds mankind; the second is sexual selection and is a true magnetism between partners; the third is compulsive ’love’...” writes Hubbard, who adds that the third type of love is dictated by irrationality. Hubbard continues, “The third kind we find in plenty: tabloid literature is devoted to it and its travails; it crams the courts with urgent pleas for divorce, with criminal acts and civil suits; it sends children weeping into the corner away from quarrels; and it launches from its broken homes broken young women and men.”
Describing this kind of compulsive love as a “reactive mind partnership,” Hubbard explains what the reactive mind is and how it causes past relationships, fears and pain to push us into compulsive relationships where we keep choosing “Mr. or Ms. Wrong” again and again and again.
We all have a reactive mind, which is that hidden part of the mind where painful incidents and emotions are stored. This mind is the source of stress, anxiety and depression. A reactive mind marriage arises from choosing a partner who is, in fact, compulsively driven by some past incident – perhaps stemming from an abusive father, a mother who screams ceaselessly until appeased or a teacher whose spiteful tendencies turned the learning experience into a negative.
Dianetics outlines a simple yet effective method of handling the reactive mind. Once all past pains, fears and compulsions have been handled, that dream of living happily ever after can be attained - a happy marriage based on a natural and strong admiration.
An example is Sally and Eric Falkow who were headed for the divorce courts in 1986 with all the symptoms of a reactive mind marriage. “I was miserable, he was miserable, and the children were very unhappy,” said Sally. “The only solution I could see was to get divorced.” After applying Dianetics, the cause of all their unhappiness vanished and last year they celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary. “We really feel that we have had a good life together,” said Sally.
For information about Dianetics and the reactive mind visit www.dianetics.org
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